Less than a week

In one week me and Micke are hsuband and wife.

Of course Micke had to proove yesterday what an ass he could be, by drinking all too much whiskey. (He just can't drink in his limits if we have whiskey at home, so the solution has been, and will be from now forward to have no whiskey in the house. So no irish coffees for me). After thinking it trough I still have decided to marry him, so next Sunday I will be a wife.

Now I will continue eating choclatecake with moccafrosting (my english name for mockarutor) and wait for Tinna to arrive. She comes to Finland at 8 o´clock tonight. It is around 4 years since I saw her last time.

Day off

Today was meant to be my big "last day to do on bachelor thing before honeymoon", but no. I just could not. No motivation. So had had sort of a day off. (Micke did not have any shool so it did not really motivate me)

But it has been a great day. Went for "runebergstårta" with Micke after looking at tiaras (did not buy any), also bought sunglasses and more sunscreen (this time for sunallergic skin) and inc. Have now printed everything I need on the homeprinter, when printing in shool all my printcredits run out so have to buy new ones tomorrow.

And now we just trained the dance for the wedding, it was the best moment of the day. Now I actually look forward to the wedding, it was so much fun dancing and fooling around with Micke. Luckily everybody will be drunk when we dance, so no pressure for us. We will just have fun.

Word

No fusku yesterday. Not good.

But got some other samrt things done, for example a "raseriutbrott" on my computer, started hitting on it and crying and freaking out since it would not work. I am so annoyed with word. Why can't I just place the words where I want to? Luckily Micke came and saved the situation and finished the nameplace signs, ohterwise I would not have a computer anymore.

I hate word. We have to print part of the programthing on our homeprinter, since you can't put the pages in the same document (one is a whole page while the other is 2 pages on one), so you have to print one document first, put in the paper again and then print the other one. It worked quite well, except the inc run out, the text is much bolder than that of the other pages and non of the text is where it is supposed to be on the paper.

Still so much to do, and I should jsut focus on writing other things, which I also do in word.

Lee is so the greatest, so the best. She has put together the music we will have when the band is not playing. It helps so much. Thank you.

Micke no good as weddingplanner

One week ago, when I again woke up from a lazy phase of wedding planning, I tought my biggest problem was that no one answered my e-mails and I don't know how to have my hair and to wear or not to wear a veil. Now I have a new problem. No one answeres calls, or espacially the churchperson (vaktmästaren). I need to know if we can have candles in the church, but does she/he answer? No.

One interesting thing in wedding planning is the husband to bes contribution to the planning. In this case it has been very low. I guess Micke doesn't feel it is a job only for the bride, but that he just can't do any sort of planning or fixing. I have tried a lot, asked 1 million times for him to get more engaged and do something, after all it was he that wanted a wedding in Finland in a church and I would have been happy just doing it in the "maistraatti" and then re-do it on a paradies island. But no. It just does not work. He has no clue whatsoever of what could be smart and he doesn't know how to find out and ooohhh.... And then he forgets, or does not do it. So I still have to worry about that thing and in the end be responsible for it. Not like.

So I have realised, that if we survive this planning stage, which not have been nice at all, we have to survive the rest of our lives. But I would never again take up the project to plan a wedding with Micke, it just doesn't work.

Short weddingupdate

Wedding things are getting clearer again. Yesterday we had a meeting with our toastmasters and one bestman and my mom. It is going to be a great weddingday. And then the Maldives. Waiting.

where did the pictures go?

Our weddinghomepage got some problems on Saturday. It stopped showing the pictures we had put there, very annoying, but I tought it would get fixed. It did not. So today I have once again uploaded pictures there, and we have a lot of pictures, but few okay once so it took a long time.
Don't like when technical things don't work.

Not stressing...

Hello!

So many things going on at the same time, but I am just gonna stay calm. Less than 4 weeks to the wedding. Less. Never tought we would come here. At the moment I feel that things are looking good with the wedding. From the start the most important thing was my dress, and my dress is nice, and in 1 hours I will get to wear it again. Happy me. I could live in that dress. So I refuse to stress about other things (telling myself). 12 snapssongs is too much.. or is it, or aahha.. or how to make to seating order, the tables, decorations... nooo, not at all stressing. I stop now.

Again, my bachelor thing. I tought I knew what I was doing, but could not find the data, it does not exist. So I have felt so much pressure from it last week, so I could do nothing. Realised I have to change the approach and that it is a minor thing and nothing to stress and worrry about, so now I know what I will do. Don't care if it is good or bad in the end. I will still pass, somehow. Hopefully sweden will accpet me to their shools even if it is crap.

My exam on Saturday won't go well, but since I have almost read the book (only 50 pages left) I think I should pass. It is a bookexam. The book is extremely boring, have read 20 pages every day and it has almost been too much. Just a lot of theories of development. A lot.

Have no clue how I will spend the summer, work, internships and so on, and won't probably figure it out before the honeymoon. But Micke has a job, and that is good. At least we will survive.

Cake tasting

One of these is our cake. They were all really yummi. We were 3 persona tasting, me, micke and my mom, and we all liked a different one the most. Luckily I had the best arguments for my cake, so now we will have a really good cake! The cake will come from a place in Ekenäs called carl de mumma.


We also talked with the priest and went trough things with him in the church. The ceremony will be good, I am just worried about what he will talk about in his speech about us, since our answers to his questions sucked. Micke got very little out of his mouth and I got stuff out but it was mega weird.
Why would we know why we are getting married now? Or what marriage means to us? Really difficult questions in times like these.

But as I have written before, it is just so natural to get married with Micke, we have probably since day 5 talked about it and we are just going with the flow. And marriage in my mind won't change anything in the relationship, just how the state and other people look as us as a couple. But no of these things even came to my mind yesterday. So we will have an interesting ceremony.

Tallin next

Today me and my mom are going to buy a lot of alchol in Tallin (cheaper there), and since my mom's policy is never to have too little, I guess we are going to buy all too much.

Try the dress

On Monday I am going to try the wedding dress again, and then they will make it smaller. It is quite big now, so I have not had to worry about my size.

And I am actually quite satisfied with my size, have stayed the same for a long time. Think I´ve looked quite the same since I met Micke. A bit too big of course, but since it is not too, too big, I won't stress with loosing weight, trying to be healthy instead (not working so well all the time). Everybody looks different and if you are okay with it, then it is okay.

My weekend

Yesterday was the last day to sign up for the wedding. There are 73 guests now, I guess we are part of that number, so in other words 71. But of course, there are 9 people who have not signed up yet. Hopefully they will get it done NOW!

I have been feeling a bit weird lately so haven't written blogs in a long time. Friday was a good day. Went to talk to be instructor/teacher (something) about my bachelor thing and now I know sort of what to write about. Good.
I also found the last missing part for my wedding outfit, it is something you wear under the dress that stays up. And it had cost 50 euros and now it was only 16. I also found a lovely grey cashmere sweater for Micke that had been 70 euros but was now only 20.

On Saturday, as well as Sunday we both tried to study. Saturday evening we went out eating with Pedu and Tanja. Not maybe the smartest economically but it was fun. And I love eating out!!
(The best of the foods, my maincourse and Mickes starter. Yum)
Afterwards the boys contined drinking and went on having a "boysnight" or more of an "boys´hour". (They got to drink one bottle of sparkling wine since they did not get that I said don't count on me drinking from it. I am having a semi "tipaton tammikuu")

So Micke was in quite bad shape on Sunday. But I took care of him, by going to the shop and buying unhealthy things for him.

Today I study!

White shoes

Yesterday I found a pair of white shoes in Helsinki. It is really rare to find white shoes this time of the year. They are quite ugly, but I could not care less about my weddingshoes. I actually bought them because of my mom, she would freak out, or make me wear tunisian white loafers if I wore the black shoes I were planning to wear. But now they are white, and my mom is happy and I am poor. I would actually love to have a black dress, and Micke a white suit. It would look good. But I don't have a black dress, and my bridemaids either, or they have not arrived yet.

Ryebread with butter and sliced boiled egg and peppar is really good. Yum.

Meet the priest

Aaah. Getting nerveous. Next Friday, the 16th we meet the priest to got trough things. Now I start feeling it. Micke's scheduel is so tight so this was the only good day. But it is soon. So soon. And then I am a happy unstressed wife with nothing to do. Lovely.

Icemachine

Life is good. I am clean, I am studying, things are great with Micke and I get things done. Great. And I got 2 beautiful roses from Micke yesterday. Happy me. And soon it is wedding and Maldives and after that I can live a "normal" life. Have decided to leave most of the wedding stuff to weekends, so that I don't think about it all the time, or feel the pressure to do something about it. And actually most of the things are done. I will stop being such a... demanding bitch maybe, no.. but stop obsessing that details have to be special and different in some ways. It just makes me go mad.

So, just live in the moment and let others do the shit. In this case my mom. She is great. She is now an icemachine, making heartshaped icecubes for the wedding. I bought around 5 of them from Ikea, the shapes, and when they are frozen she puts them in a plastic bag and makes more of them.
She has also fixed a car for us. She won't tell what kind or what price it is. Then she has fixed a bar-guy for us, and nightfood man (our neighbour). Now my job is to call the priest, I am supposed to call him in the beginning of January. That is now. And today I should go and buy silverpaper for the weddingprograms, which are almost done, some small changes just have to be done. Since we have to weddinghomepage we will mostly have snapssongs in the weddingprogram. Will try to save as much paper as possible, both ecological and economical. And now we have 39 confirmed guests. Only 44 who have not said anything yet.

Things look good. Have to call the priest now.

Guests, sign up!

In 12 days it is the last day to sign up for our wedding. 12 days. People have had their inivitation cards for at least a month already. Guess how many guests we will have if no one else signs up?

11.

We have a many person band and only 11 guests. We also have a large (expensive) bus transporting people from Helsinki to Pohja, guess how many are going to use that one?

2.

Great shit!

We are not assuming that anyone comes, everyone has to sign up, we also need to know allergies. So, sign up. Please!

Soon we can for real get married

Today we did something you in swedish call "hindersprövning", it means that you check that there are no obstacles to get married. These obstacles would be that you are married or related and then if you are too young you need your parents concent. So in one week we will get a paper where it says we can get married. Without this paper there would be no wedding, so I am very happy we finally got it done.

I need the sun. Now. Please. Christmas present. A trip to Thailand maybe. Please Santa.

Shortest day

Today I baked some bread. It turned out okay, not what I tought what I was making (maltlimpa), but something you can eat. Otherwise it has been a chill day, went to Mickes parents to eat fish, watched some house. Chill day.

Yesterday I worked. And played Risk with Pedu, Tanja and Micke in the evening.

Friday we had a great mothere daughter moment. We went to eat cheap good steak (Bakers 9,90 until 18.00) and then to a big beautiful church to listen to christmas songs, it was really, really beautiful, got such a good christmas spirit.

Earlier on Firday I also booked some more clothes for the wedding, jackets and things like that, to keep me a bit warmer (will still freeze to death, always do) But now I won't be able to wear the veil. So smart of me to make it. Maybe I can use it somewhere else, Micke suggested the wedding night...

Today was the shortest day, now there are only happy days ahead!

Festspex

Jag håller på och fundera på program och lekar för bröllopet och det konstiga är att det efter varje lek står att den är jätterolig och att alla skrattar. Jag är inte för äsker på det!

Less than 2 months..

I sit in front of the computer all the time, all day long, that's probably why I don't have any interest in blogging at the moment.

A new week has begun, and a new life with it. No candies for me before christmas, a lot of work out and a lot of research on remittances done. I actually sit in Hanken, in a computer room now, trying to finnish my Spanish paper and then in the afternoon I will go do some work out.

The weekend was nice. Fun, fun, fun with not too much alchol. Great. Yesterday was the unhealthiest day in a long time with pizza as breakfast and just a lot of bad snacks the rest of the day. We did some wedding party planning, and then we tried dancing. We are bad. It will be fun watching us.

In bed later on I got a bit panici when I realised it is only less than 2 months left, and there is still so much to do. I do not recommend fixing a big wedding. If I would do it all again, I would just have a civil ceremony (fa till magistratet) and then go on a honeymoon. It is so expensive to fix a nice party, and if there is a party it should be somehow nice. But nothing can be done about is anymore. Just to live with the consecuences.

Wedding planning

I just saw on our weddinghomepage (here, if you want to check it out) that there is only 73 days until our wedding. Micke said yesterday that he was a bit nerveous. I feel more stressed. Again. But more calmly stressed than earlier, there is not so much I can do.

We have the clothes (of course not all, I don't have shoes, jacket, underwear, hairthings, jewelery and so on) and we have sent out the invitations (still have some problem with future parents-in-law about the guestlist).

Don't know where to spend the wedding night, even our own bed is an optionat the moment. Things that we are going to do now is to plan the program sheets (one for the church and one for the party) and try deciding what music to have, espcaially in the church. We have a psalmbook, but it does not help me at all, never heard the songs. And make some playlist for when the band is not playing. Then I would also like to have some games, or some funprogram where the guests can do something, to loosen the air. Any ideas?

I think I will need to take two weeks off before the wedding to just to get small things done.